How To Travel Alone For The First Time

Discover how to travel alone for the first time with confidence. The essential guide for women in their 40s ready to see the world.

When most people think of a solo traveler, they picture a relaxed 20-something backpacker who moves from hostel to hostel and makes friends whenever they want. But what if I told you that some of the most meaningful travel adventures can happen when you’re older, wiser, and ready to leave the dorms for something a little more comfortable?

I have a vivid memory of my first solo travel. I was almost 35 years old, and I felt stuck. My friend’s stories about Cambodia made me want to go there. It called to me with its temples, busy markets, and promise of a trip very different from anything I had ever experienced. Amid both excitement and fear, I booked my flights. Could I do this by myself?

It’s a different kind of adventure to travel by yourself when you’re in your 40s. We no longer have as much naiveté and, thank goodness, the need for constant social approval that can come with being in our 20s. There’s no need to prove anything to everyone. It’s more about accepting freedom on your own terms and remembering how strong you are.

Certainly, society loves to tell women that marriage and children make us valuable. When you travel alone, those myths fall apart. This is about taking back your space, following your interests, and showing yourself that you’re the best travel partner you’ll ever have.

If you’re interested in that, you’ve found your kindred spirit. You are about to evolve in a big way. More self-reliance, a fresh sense of wonder, and maybe even a deeper respect for the simple things in life. Here, I’ll share everything I know about how to travel alone for the first time and have a great time. We will talk about how to get around, stay safe, deal with loneliness, and yes, how to pack like a pro (because the less you carry, the better you’ll be!).

This isn’t so much a rulebook as it is a friend giving you the inside scoop. Why travel by yourself in your 40s? Because it is possible, and it might be the best thing you ever do for yourself.

Planning Your First Solo Adventure

It’s exciting, and maybe a little nerve-wracking, to decide where to go on your first trip by yourself. It’s important to find a place that makes you want to be bold while also being safe and easy to get around in for your first trip around the world by yourself. Here are the most important things to think about:

Where Do I Start with Solo Travel? How to Pick the Perfect Destination

• Safety first. As a woman going by herself, safety is non-negotiable to me. Luckily, there are a lot of stunning places in the world that are known for being safe and friendly for women. Find out about the crime rates, government stability, and views on women in the places you want to visit. The Women’s Danger Index and similar resources can be good places to start.
• Follow your interests. What do you look forward to the most? Are you interested in history? A foodie? Do you like nature? Choose places that are related to what you’re interested in. This will make it easy to plan your trip and make sure it’s full of things you love.
• Comfort is key. If your goal is to ease into solo travel, think about places with strong tourist facilities. It’s usually much easier to get around in these places because they have great public transportation, well-marked tourist spots, and lots of people who speak English.

Where Can I Travel Solo for the First Time?

• Europe. Portugal, Spain, and Italy are good places for first-time travelers because they have a lot of history and culture and are easy to get around.
• Scandinavia. Iceland, Norway, and Denmark always score high on safety rankings and are great places to visit if you love nature and beautiful scenery.
• Southeast Asia. Thailand, Vietnam, and the Philippines are all great places to travel on a budget. They also have a friendly traveling culture that makes it easy to meet other travelers. For more information, read my list of the Safest Countries for Solo Female Travelers in Asia.
• Other Options. There are more countries on the list than just those mentioned.

Balancing “Off the Beaten Path” with Ease of Travel

Finding a hidden gem is enticing, and traveling by yourself is the best way to do some wild exploring. But for your first time out, it’s important to find equilibrium. Think about taking a mix of well-known tourist spots (which usually have great facilities) and less popular side trips. You’ll feel better about yourself this way, and then you can treat yourself by going on an exciting adventure. As always, even in “touristy” areas, you can go off the beaten path and get lost (in the best way possible!).

Don’t be afraid to start with a trip close to home if that makes you feel more comfortable! As the saying goes, it’s about the journey, not just the destination. The most important thing about traveling alone is getting to know yourself in a new setting. This can happen just an hour away or on a different continent.

Researching Like a Pro: Beyond Guidebooks and Tourist Sites

Get advice and ideas from people who have been through it before you. Facebook groups and sites just for women who want to travel (especially women in their 40s and up) are great resources. Ask for suggestions on safe areas, places to stay that are good for women, and even people you could consider traveling with. These places also offer help, answer important questions about how to travel alone for the first time, and get rid of any doubts that might come up.

There is a lovely German word, vorfreude, that captures the delight of looking forward to something! Researching and planning is half the enjoyment. 

To better experience a new travel destination, try to learn the local language before you go, read travel stories by female writers, and explore the local cuisine. You can also take a virtual cooking class to learn about the food and culture of the place you’re visiting while connecting with other travel and cooking enthusiasts.

Even though the Internet is a great resource, ideas can come from strange places. Read travel books by Frances Mayes or Bill Bryson, watch films, and get lost in movies set in the places you want to visit. All of these can spark your ideas and help you find some amazing things on your trip.

Solo Travel Accommodation Options

One of the most important things to think about when making your first trip by yourself is where to stay the night. If you’re a woman in your 40s going out by yourself, you’ll want a mix of safety, comfort, and the chance to meet new people when you want to. Now that we know what you can do, you can book your stay with trust.

Hotels vs. Hostels: Finding Your Perfect Fit

Hotels are the traditional choice. Hotels give you privacy, comfort, and a sense of safety that you’re used to. If one of your goals on your solo trip is to “pamper yourself,” a hotel in a good spot can be your haven. Do a lot of research and choose the ones that have good reviews and safety features that make you feel good, like well-lit areas and a 24-hour front desk.

Hostels, which used to be popular with younger people, are changing! Many have separate rooms or dorms just for women, for people who want to save money and meet new people. Read reviews from solo tourists your age to get an idea of the atmosphere and whether it’s right for you. 

The Perks of Women-Only Stays or Vacation Rentals

• Women-Only Stays. Such places include hostels with shared rooms and hotels or guesthouses just for women. For some people traveling alone, they add a sense of community and safety. 
• Vacation rentals, such as Airbnb. It’s great if you want the comforts of home, privacy, and the chance to live in a neighborhood like a local. Read reviews carefully that talk about safety and the area.

Tips for All Accommodation Types

Look for areas that are well-lit, easy to get around on foot, and close to public transportation. Pay attention to the cancellation policies, extra fees, and necessary amenities. If you’ve never traveled alone for a long time before, you might want to try staying in different types of places. For example, spend a few nights in a hostel with lots of other people and then move to a more private retreat.

Don’t be afraid to go against what you think should happen. Pico Iyer, a travel writer, writes a book called “The Art of Stillness” that talks about the unexpected benefits of living in one place. A longer stay in one place can help you connect with others more deeply and make “moving day” less stressful when you’re traveling alone.

Read more about this topic in my guide Solo Travel Accommodation: Unique Stays For The Solo Traveler.

Solo Travel Logistics: Mastering the Practicalities

Planning the details of your solo trip might seem like the hardest part, but it doesn’t have to be! You can explore on your own terms when you book your own flights, transportation, and budget. Here we go, step by step:

Tips for Finding the Best Deals and Avoiding Hassles

• Be flexible. If you want to save money, try going during the week or during the shoulder seasons.
• Check out comparison sites. Sites like Skyscanner, Kayak, or Google Flights can help you find the best deals.
• Package deals. Booking a flight and a room at the same time can save you money. 
• Consider budget airlines. They can be surprisingly cheap, especially if you’re only taking a few things with you.

Understanding Local Transportation: Safety and Ease of Use

• Do your research. Check out the city’s subways, buses, cabs, and ride-hailing apps. 
• Airport transfers. If you want to feel safe when you get there, book your airport transfers ahead of time or look into safe and reliable public transportation choices.
• Walkability. When deciding where to stay, think about how walkable the neighborhood is, so you can get around on foot.

Budgeting Your Adventure: Travel Doesn’t Have to Break the Bank

• Set a realistic budget. Find out what things usually cost where you’re going, and make plans based on that information.
• Automate savings. Set up a trip fund to receive money automatically. 
• Cut back on non-essentials. Making small sacrifices every day can lead to significant savings!
• Try cost-effective experiences. Look for parks, museums, or historic spots offering free or affordable walking tours.
• Local eats. Instead of going to touristy places, try the real gems, which are often much tastier and cheaper. 
• Consider a city pass. These can let you visit various attractions if your schedule is full of sightseeing.
  

Traveling solo allows you to have control over your expenses. With proper planning and research, you can enjoy a budget-friendly adventure without compromising on quality. Rolf Potts, in his book “Vagabonding,” advocates for long-term, low-cost travel. This perspective is ideal for individuals learning how to travel alone for the first time, particularly when venturing to unfamiliar destinations. 

Staying Safe and Savvy: Essential Solo Travel Tips

Being an experienced woman exploring the world solo, ensuring safety is a top concern. Learning how to travel alone for the first time can be very empowering, but using some strategies and tools can provide peace of mind and reduce potential risks. Let’s get started!

• Dress appropriately. It is essential to conduct thorough research before a trip. Opt for conservative attire in places with more traditional customs. Find a way to blend your personal style with the local culture. Focus on loose, breathable fabrics for maximum comfort. And remember to protect your skin from the sun! Take a look at my article on Women’s UV Sun Protective Clothing for chic and functional choices.
• Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it likely isn’t. Feel empowered to confidently and respectfully decline and create space if someone’s actions make you feel uneasy. Displaying confident body language and keeping your head held high can make a difference.
• Stay connected and smart. Ensure your loved ones are informed about your plans and whereabouts. Consider getting a temporary local SIM card for easier communication and internet access. Applications such as GeoSure offer real-time safety ratings for neighborhoods, enabling well-informed decisions. Personal safety devices can discreetly alert contacts or emit loud sounds during emergencies. 

Additional Tips

• It’s best to avoid walking alone at night in unfamiliar areas, especially if they are poorly lit.
• It’s helpful to know a few basic phrases in the local language for emergencies.
• Remember to carry a small amount of cash and ensure your valuables are kept hidden and secure.

Fear shouldn’t be a factor when traveling alone. It’s all about making wise decisions and having confidence in yourself as you navigate the world. “Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker is a valuable resource for understanding and trusting your intuition in matters of safety. 

The Pleasures of Solo Travel (and Conquering the “What Ifs”)

Solo travel can sometimes have a negative reputation, bringing to mind images of dining alone or feeling out of place. Traveling solo can lead to a plethora of amazing experiences and significant personal development, particularly for women in their 40s. Let’s address those uncertainties and discover the unique joys of doing things independently.

• Enjoy a meal alone. Dining alone can initially feel a bit uncomfortable. It’s all about changing your perspective. Shift your focus from internal to external! Immerse yourself in the flavors, scents, and atmosphere of the restaurant. Indulge in that dish you’ve always wanted to try. You dictate the rhythm. Looking for a breather between courses? Crack open a book or journal. 
• Celebrate the pleasure of people-watching. Dining alone provides a great chance to take in your environment. Listen in on discussions, observe the world around you, and allow your mind to roam freely while crafting narratives for the individuals you encounter. Just relax and enjoy the moment without worrying about being judged. Embrace the surroundings and appreciate the freedom of anonymity.

Discovering Ways to Overcome Loneliness: Building Meaningful Connections While Traveling

• Engage in group tours or activities aligned with your interests. Enjoy art? Are you enthusiastic about cooking? Joining tours or taking short classes is a fantastic way to connect with others who share your interests while exploring a new place. An ice-breaker is already there! You could find travel companions for part of your journey or even lifelong friends.
• Discovering your community in online groups. Before you go, utilize the internet to connect with your community. Numerous Facebook groups and websites cater to solo female travelers, particularly those over 40. Exchange advice, find motivation, and organize gatherings during your journey.
  

Embracing the Power of Solitude: Self-Reflection and Growth

Finding out how to travel alone for the first time allows for a unique opportunity for self-reflection. It has the potential to improve self-awareness and problem-solving abilities. When there’s no one else to depend on, you develop self-assurance and uncover untapped abilities. Make sure to set aside some time for journaling, meditation, or just sitting in a lovely spot and allowing your mind to roam freely. Just like Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, famously discovered, sometimes the journey inward is the most transformative journey of all. 

Embracing solo travel as a woman in your 40s is a powerful expression of self-care and independence. Venture out and discover the world in your own unique way. It’s a great opportunity to embrace the endless possibilities this stage of your life offers!

Packing Tips for the Savvy Solo Traveler

Preparing for your first solo adventure may seem overwhelming, but it’s also an opportunity to free yourself from unnecessary weight—both physical and emotional! It’s important to pack light to fully enjoy your trip without any hassle.

Mastering the Skill of Minimalist Packing

• The capsule wardrobe. Concentrate on a select few key colors that complement each other well. Opt for lightweight, wrinkle-resistant materials such as merino wool or technical blends. The fashion industry has a substantial environmental impact, emphasizing that minimalist packing can help reduce this pollution. 
• Layering is essential. Adapting to different climates is easier with layers, eliminating the need for bulky clothing. Consider a lightweight cardigan, scarf, or jacket.
• The one-pair-of-shoes rule. Sure, perhaps two! An ideal choice for strolling during the day and a more elegant selection for nights out. If you need to bring extra items, pack the lighter ones and wear the heaviest pair when you travel.

Versatile Must-Haves: Items for Multiple Uses

• Sarong. The versatile sarong can transform into various items like a beach cover-up, scarf, light blanket, or even a makeshift bag.
• Quick-dry towel. Make sure to bring a compact, microfiber towel for the beach, impromptu hikes, or in case your accommodations don’t offer one.
• Small toiletries. Consider choosing travel-sized essentials or solid versions of shampoo and conditioner to bypass liquid restrictions. Transfer your preferred items into more compact bottles. 
• Refillable water bottle. Keep yourself hydrated while being environmentally conscious. Refill stations are available at some airports beyond the security checkpoint.

Ensuring Safety and Peace of Mind with Tech Gadgets

• Portable phone charger. Never worry about a dead battery while on the go.
• Personal safety alarm. A powerful tool to ward off unwanted situations.
• Mini first aid kit. Include essentials for minor injuries, colds, or headaches.
• Offline maps app. Download maps beforehand for navigation without the internet.

Don’t forget, you can always purchase what slips your mind! Solo travel brings the thrill of being able to adapt to any situation, and part of the excitement is stumbling upon the perfect souvenir to replace a forgotten item.

Inspiration and Resources to Fuel Your Journey

Sometimes, all it takes to ignite your own wanderlust is witnessing someone else take that courageous first step. Here are some resources to inspire, guide, and connect you as you start this exciting chapter:

Solo Travel Success Stories: Women in Their 40s and Beyond

• Gloria Atanmo. This dynamic travel blogger in her 50s left her corporate job and embarked on an exciting journey of self-discovery through travel.
  
• Lavanya Sunkara. With multiple books under her belt, this intrepid traveler discovered meaning in extended journeys. Check out her amazing adventures on her blog, Nature Traveler.
• Anita Kapoor. Anita is a true testament to the fact that it’s never too late! She embarked on solo travel at the age of 53! Discover her on Instagram for inspiring adventures and advice.

Travel Blogs and Podcasts for Women

• Solo Traveler World. Full of practical tips, destination reviews, and interviews with inspiring women travelers.
• The Travel Women. A friendly community offering a podcast, blog, and events for women who enjoy sharing their travel experiences. The website is a great resource for travel enthusiasts.
• A Dangerous Business Travel Blog. Amanda’s blog is ideal for travelers looking for unique, off-the-beaten-path experiences. 

Books That Will Ignite Your Desire to Travel

Observing other women who are at a similar life stage embracing solo travel is truly inspiring, highlighting how achievable, empowering, and fulfilling it can be. Let their experiences inspire the belief that you can achieve your goals too. 

Conclusion

Traveling alone in your 40s is a fantastic way to invest in yourself. You possess a wealth of life experience, wisdom, and a yearning for something new and unique. If you’re feeling those butterflies of anticipation, it’s time to make a move. Begin exploring different travel spots, outlining a budget, and using the abundance of resources available to assist you on your adventure. Planning your trip is an essential part of the adventure when it comes to learning how to travel alone for the first time.